I thought this true to life extract from a magazine holds an experience that many of us may recognize:
“One day when my grown kids were visiting, I was engaged in my usual practice of anxiously suggesting various entertainment options, lest we all miss out on something vital. Suddenly my daughter Kat shouted: ‘Mom!’
‘Yes?’ I answered.
Kat said, ‘Stop!’
For about 5 seconds I stared at her like a light-blinded mole. And then I felt a huge wave of relief. She was right. I was trying to do 3 thousand things at once when all I really needed was to be still. Once my daughter shocked me back into the here and now, it became obvious that the moment I was already living was perfect. I was with people I love. We had air to breathe, a dog to dote on and tea to drink. I realized that the only thing any of us ever has is the moment we’re living now.’
How easy it is to get swept up in what to plan for the future, and miss this moment. This doesn’t mean we should not make plans when necessary, but we do that in the present, and when it is appropriate. The woman in the example may have missed the delights of the present moment , while rushing into the future; which doesn’t exist except in our imagination. How much more she enjoyed the moment when she stopped trying to manage her children and the situation, and simply lived in the now.
Live in the Now.
Be kind and gentle with yourself.