“We have to learn, not from books, but from the experiences of our lives and the secret to learning is keep the mind open. Real learning requires being 100% in the present.
“Our unhappiness stems from worrying about things beyond our control, especially the past. Worrying becomes a habit. It is like a disease so don’t try to solve problems that no longer exist. Once you understand this principle it is easier to stay in the present.
“Happiness is not something we attain from an external source. It is within us and such we are responsible for our own bliss.
“Every morning insist on being cheerful and happy even if you have a husband or wife.” (!!!)
This is an extract from an address to students at the Wits Business School by Indian happiness guru Anubhavananda (also known as the Be-Happy Swam) The Times, Nov 2013
There is so much truth in this. We constantly seek happiness in outside things – in fact, we are programmed to do so! When you get your degree/ diploma/complete your apprenticeship etc, then you can relax and be happy. When you get married and have children you’ll feel fulfilled. When your career is established and you plenty of money you will be happy.
All this is based on an imaginary future that may or may not happen at all. What about now? What about enjoying the journey? How sad to get old and discover that we never enjoyed the moment because we were never there.
The end of the address goes like this:
“Try not to busy your mind with thoughts of the past and the future; don’t detach yourself from the present.
“In the present we are creative, not tired, not bored. When we are in the present we are happy.”
What do you think?